Introvert/Extrovert? HALT Loneliness
H.A.L.T. Your Loneliness #1
July 9, 2012Lonely is Life (HALT Loneliness #3)
July 23, 2012Don’t have iTunes? Listen here.
Are you an extrovert – or do you just act like one? Are you an introvert – or do you just hide out to stay safe? In discussing the “Lonely” in HALT, host Michael Anne Conley explores how loneliness creates a rocky path if you’re not true to who you are. This episode includes an experiential exercise. To explore more about holistic and somatic approaches to freeing yourself from problem habits, check out this site!
Michael Anne Conley
As a habit change expert, my approach to transforming habits is the result of 30 years experience serving clients who are dealing with all kinds of habits that create problems for themselves and others. (That includes the habit of worrying about someone else's habits!)
As a holistic therapist, I've developed a step-by-step process that can help you stop feeling energetically drained, wondering what you're doing wrong or what's wrong with you, and start creating healthy habits that serve you in moving your life where you want to go.
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I am introverted. However, I love running races of all sizes — from 50 local runners to 50,000+ (Lilac Bloomsday run) — and I enter many races in a year. I find that I enjoy the sociability of it, without having to actually talk to anybody if I don’t want to. That probably doesn’t seem like it makes a lot of sense… maybe it’s kind of like that expression, “hiding in plain sight.” I enjoy participating in a very individual sport while simultaneously enjoying the vibe and energy of a crowd of like-minded people going the same direction (which of course is very different from being in a random crowd of people, which I don’t enjoy). In a race I can compare my performance to others without them knowing, I can people-watch, and I can learn by observation, while being utterly alone with my thoughts. And I train alone too, or I run with my husband. I rarely or never train in a group and I don’t typically chat with people at the gym.
Yes, the interesting thing about introversion is that belief that we don’t want to be around people, when it’s really just a difference in what replenishes us. So it sounds like you replenish yourself by running, which even in a crowd has a solitary nature to it, like you say, you don’t have to talk to people. For each of us, knowing our own rhythm for what nourishes makes a big difference.